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Tuesday, August 26, 2008
Wednesday, August 20, 2008
Tuesday, August 19, 2008
Commitment Phobia
I believe I have a friend that have commitment phobia. I found this article online.
Do you know how to deal with commitment phobia?
There is a lot of advice on the internet regarding how to deal with commitment phobia. Are you confused? Here are some starting points:
Learn to recognize the symptoms. Is your partner truly scared of commitment, or is it just that you are both moving in different directions?
Sometimes if our relationship is not working, it is easier to blame the problem on some other cause, rather than look at the cold hard facts
As difficult as it may be to admit, you and your partner might not be right for each other. The following information will help you learn about the warning signs and how to deal with commitment phobia when it rears its ugly head.
What is commitment phobia?
Just like the name implies, commitment phobia is the fear or dislike of commitment. Men are generally considered more commitment-phobic than women, but recent research suggests that this might be a case of stereotyping, and that it is not necessarily a gender-specific thing.
Statistics show that we are happier and more well-adjusted when we are in committed relationships. So where does the fear of commitment come from? There can be many different reasons why people do not want to commit. Some of these can include:
Previous unsuccessful relationships
Has your partner been badly hurt in the past? If so, you will need to be patient. Let him or her know how much you care; slowly they will begin to trust you and realize that you are a completely different person to their ex-partner.
Fear of boredom
Are you or your partner addicted to the rush and excitement of a new relationship? Yes, the first stages of a relationship are always exciting….but as you settle into a routine, one or both of you might start to become restless, and look elsewhere to get that excitement again. Unfortunately, this superficial excitement will always wear off, leaving you hungry for the next fix.
So be careful; falling into this trap is a recipe for a shallow and lonely existence. Instead, how about taking steps to keep the relationship exciting for both of you? Try new things together and make sure you keep your independence too; this means spending a healthy amount of time apart, doing things with other people.
There might be someone better out there
Some people are always on the lookout for something better than what they already have. If you think your partner is doing this, then do yourself a favour and leave the relationship; you deserve better.
Only after the thrill of the chase
In a similar vain to the new relationship addict, some people are only interested in the unattainable; they come on strong at the start, saying and doing all the right things and being extremely attentive. Then once you reciprocate the interest, they don’t want to know any more.
Do you know someone like this? The signs are usually pretty clear…they are all over you one minute, then cool and distant the next. If you’re dating someone who does this, move right along! Don’t waste your time with game-players. Make yourself available for a partner who has integrity and who shows you the respect you deserve
So How Can We Avoid It?
If you’re not sure how to deal with commitment phobia, then I hope this guide has made things a little clearer. One of the most destructive side effects of being involved with a commitment phobic is a loss of self-esteem. You might even blame yourself for your partner’s failure to commit. Rejection hurts; and when you are on the receiving end of rejection, it can be hard not to turn on yourself.
The best way to avoid having to deal with commitment phobia is to be clear about what your needs and expectations are right from the beginning; don't avoid talking about serious subjects just because you don't want to “rock the boat”. If you don't both want the same things, it is better to know from the beginning.
"Don’t waste your time and energy on someone who does not deserve your love"
Do you know how to deal with commitment phobia?
There is a lot of advice on the internet regarding how to deal with commitment phobia. Are you confused? Here are some starting points:
Learn to recognize the symptoms. Is your partner truly scared of commitment, or is it just that you are both moving in different directions?
Sometimes if our relationship is not working, it is easier to blame the problem on some other cause, rather than look at the cold hard facts
As difficult as it may be to admit, you and your partner might not be right for each other. The following information will help you learn about the warning signs and how to deal with commitment phobia when it rears its ugly head.
What is commitment phobia?
Just like the name implies, commitment phobia is the fear or dislike of commitment. Men are generally considered more commitment-phobic than women, but recent research suggests that this might be a case of stereotyping, and that it is not necessarily a gender-specific thing.
Statistics show that we are happier and more well-adjusted when we are in committed relationships. So where does the fear of commitment come from? There can be many different reasons why people do not want to commit. Some of these can include:
Previous unsuccessful relationships
Has your partner been badly hurt in the past? If so, you will need to be patient. Let him or her know how much you care; slowly they will begin to trust you and realize that you are a completely different person to their ex-partner.
Fear of boredom
Are you or your partner addicted to the rush and excitement of a new relationship? Yes, the first stages of a relationship are always exciting….but as you settle into a routine, one or both of you might start to become restless, and look elsewhere to get that excitement again. Unfortunately, this superficial excitement will always wear off, leaving you hungry for the next fix.
So be careful; falling into this trap is a recipe for a shallow and lonely existence. Instead, how about taking steps to keep the relationship exciting for both of you? Try new things together and make sure you keep your independence too; this means spending a healthy amount of time apart, doing things with other people.
There might be someone better out there
Some people are always on the lookout for something better than what they already have. If you think your partner is doing this, then do yourself a favour and leave the relationship; you deserve better.
Only after the thrill of the chase
In a similar vain to the new relationship addict, some people are only interested in the unattainable; they come on strong at the start, saying and doing all the right things and being extremely attentive. Then once you reciprocate the interest, they don’t want to know any more.
Do you know someone like this? The signs are usually pretty clear…they are all over you one minute, then cool and distant the next. If you’re dating someone who does this, move right along! Don’t waste your time with game-players. Make yourself available for a partner who has integrity and who shows you the respect you deserve
So How Can We Avoid It?
If you’re not sure how to deal with commitment phobia, then I hope this guide has made things a little clearer. One of the most destructive side effects of being involved with a commitment phobic is a loss of self-esteem. You might even blame yourself for your partner’s failure to commit. Rejection hurts; and when you are on the receiving end of rejection, it can be hard not to turn on yourself.
The best way to avoid having to deal with commitment phobia is to be clear about what your needs and expectations are right from the beginning; don't avoid talking about serious subjects just because you don't want to “rock the boat”. If you don't both want the same things, it is better to know from the beginning.
"Don’t waste your time and energy on someone who does not deserve your love"
Friday, August 15, 2008
Tuesday, August 12, 2008
Do we let Astrology run our lives?
I know everyone has read their horoscope at least once, and also searched for which sign they were compatible with. I'm guilty of doing this...Once you find your matches, it's basically tatted in back of your mind. If someone tells you they were born on a month/day that the horoscope told you to stay to away from, you get a red alert about the person and you start to point out the negative traits. What if that person was the one for you, but just because something told you to stay far away from him/her you listen.
I don't discredit astrology, I actually enjoy reading my daily horoscope and knowing who I'm compatible with, but I also don't let it run my life. People deserve chances no matter how stubborn their sign are.
Remember Astrology is one of the oldest tradition, and some consider it a religion.
I'm an Aries
Aries Positive Traits
Loves adventure, very energetic
Inventive with lots of courage
confident and Enthusiastic
Sharp and quick-minded
Fiery and warm, passionate and expressive. Possessing a strong sense of urgency.
Aries Negative Traits
Can be self-centered at times and prone to being quick-tempered,
Impulsive and impatience
takes unnecessary risks
A procrastinator at times
ARIES goes with:
Leo, Sagittarius, Gemini and Aquarius (most compatible is Leo).
Aries Personality Profile
The Aries person seeks adventure and has unusually high energy level. Pioneering, Aries will be the first to take a risk. There were no doubt, a lot of Aries day traders when that first became popular for example.
The sunsign Aries is considered by their peers to be a courageous leader, not afraid to take risks, will often feel confident that "They know better". Aries always seems to have a quick grasp of essence of most any situation, BUT aries does not often hang around to closely examine the details. However, give fiery Aries a cause, or a good reason to fight for something, a problem to solve, or a fresh new idea to ponder, and you will find this dynamic personality rises to the cause.
Aries is also a very dynamic person and can easily draw attention to themselves when they enter a room. Make no mistake, an Aries person will be on of the first to risk their life to save yours, and also the first to get really mad at you for putting yourself at risk in the first place!
Lovers Information
Aries are very affectionate people, in spite of the "me first" tendency. They are passionate and generous toward their loved ones. With warm and enthusiastic natures, they can be very demonstrative.
Sociable gregarious extroverts, Arians are fantastic to have around because they tend to add life and soul to any party because of their energetic, bouncy, enthusiastic nature. At times the Aries personality becomes very dark indeed when crossed by a lover.
Aries and heartbreaks
A broken hearted Aries is a seriously sad (or angry) person. In spite of their cheerful exterior, Arians are tender and emotionally fragile people. Prone to falling in love at first sight, they instantly put their partners on a pedestal. This is usually were the trouble begins.
Unless the two of you can talk through differences, the Arian will be very disappointed on discovering that their partner is less then perfect...
The romantic idea of being faithful to one person forever is appealing to Aries because of their strong sense of romance. However, if things go bad he or she may stray, in search of more attention, excitement and love.
I don't discredit astrology, I actually enjoy reading my daily horoscope and knowing who I'm compatible with, but I also don't let it run my life. People deserve chances no matter how stubborn their sign are.
Remember Astrology is one of the oldest tradition, and some consider it a religion.
I'm an Aries
Aries Positive Traits
Loves adventure, very energetic
Inventive with lots of courage
confident and Enthusiastic
Sharp and quick-minded
Fiery and warm, passionate and expressive. Possessing a strong sense of urgency.
Aries Negative Traits
Can be self-centered at times and prone to being quick-tempered,
Impulsive and impatience
takes unnecessary risks
A procrastinator at times
ARIES goes with:
Leo, Sagittarius, Gemini and Aquarius (most compatible is Leo).
Aries Personality Profile
The Aries person seeks adventure and has unusually high energy level. Pioneering, Aries will be the first to take a risk. There were no doubt, a lot of Aries day traders when that first became popular for example.
The sunsign Aries is considered by their peers to be a courageous leader, not afraid to take risks, will often feel confident that "They know better". Aries always seems to have a quick grasp of essence of most any situation, BUT aries does not often hang around to closely examine the details. However, give fiery Aries a cause, or a good reason to fight for something, a problem to solve, or a fresh new idea to ponder, and you will find this dynamic personality rises to the cause.
Aries is also a very dynamic person and can easily draw attention to themselves when they enter a room. Make no mistake, an Aries person will be on of the first to risk their life to save yours, and also the first to get really mad at you for putting yourself at risk in the first place!
Lovers Information
Aries are very affectionate people, in spite of the "me first" tendency. They are passionate and generous toward their loved ones. With warm and enthusiastic natures, they can be very demonstrative.
Sociable gregarious extroverts, Arians are fantastic to have around because they tend to add life and soul to any party because of their energetic, bouncy, enthusiastic nature. At times the Aries personality becomes very dark indeed when crossed by a lover.
Aries and heartbreaks
A broken hearted Aries is a seriously sad (or angry) person. In spite of their cheerful exterior, Arians are tender and emotionally fragile people. Prone to falling in love at first sight, they instantly put their partners on a pedestal. This is usually were the trouble begins.
Unless the two of you can talk through differences, the Arian will be very disappointed on discovering that their partner is less then perfect...
The romantic idea of being faithful to one person forever is appealing to Aries because of their strong sense of romance. However, if things go bad he or she may stray, in search of more attention, excitement and love.
Friday, August 8, 2008
Random Questions
Friday Questions (something new)
Whats the best pick up line you've heard from a guy?
At what age do you think people should get married?
Obama or McCain?
Do you prefer a guy with short hair or long hair? (if you want, you can go into detail; cornrows, dreads, etc.)
Do you prefer Light skin, brown skin or dark skin?
Which Celebrity would you date?
Old school hip hop or new school?
Whats your biggest regret?
Whats the best pick up line you've heard from a guy?
At what age do you think people should get married?
Obama or McCain?
Do you prefer a guy with short hair or long hair? (if you want, you can go into detail; cornrows, dreads, etc.)
Do you prefer Light skin, brown skin or dark skin?
Which Celebrity would you date?
Old school hip hop or new school?
Whats your biggest regret?
Thursday, August 7, 2008
Wednesday, August 6, 2008
On the brain
1) In my life I've been the bad guy and good guy towards women. It seems like every time I'm good to someone I'm treated like shit and when I'm bad they want me more...What's wrong with women?
2) Some people cant have just 1 they want the whole jar...that's selfish.
3) It's hard playing both sides of the game.
4) Beauty is temporary, when its gone we'll see what your left with.
5) Who's really the victim?
6) It's funny when you let something good go, and when it's gone than that's when you want it back.
2) Some people cant have just 1 they want the whole jar...that's selfish.
3) It's hard playing both sides of the game.
4) Beauty is temporary, when its gone we'll see what your left with.
5) Who's really the victim?
6) It's funny when you let something good go, and when it's gone than that's when you want it back.
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