This situation I'm in has prevented me to constantly post. It's extremely hard for me to do anything in my life because it revolves around the situation. In the past few weeks I've been holding a lot in and I need to release it. If you have any advice please share it's must needed.
Vent List
1) Before we ended it, you fell for someone and now less than 1 month of the "end" you fall for someone else.
2) You know how to fix this problem but you just don't want to.
3) Am I being used?
4) I'm a provider, a Lover and a protector, but I still get treated like shit.
5) God please help me get over this, I know revenge is not the way. How could you let her treat me like this?
6) She'll tell you she loves you and out the same mouth tell someone else she loves them.
7) Your not confused, your just self fish. I know you want me, but you also want someone else, so you'll play your cards close to the table so you can have both.
8) As bad as I want to confront the guys, victims to be correct, they didn't do anything except fall for the Sirens - Odyssey.
9) Right now your having fun but wants it's over will I still be here?
10) She still lies!
11) I believe people who use the love too freely should be banned from it because they don't know how powerful the word mean.
12) It seems like she cares about the 2 new guys more than me.
13) Karma is a bitch! Just think of all what you've done and multiply it by 2 and that's whats gonna happen to you in the future.
14) I met someone that I thought could rescue me from this nightmare but she left because she cant stand that I cant let go of the past.
15) Are you truly heartless? I've been asking that for sometime now.
16) Picture me not in your life, if it's hard to picture than what's wrong with you?
Your answer "I don't know"- Than you continue on with your life.
17) She sneaks away to be with him. I know when your lying!
18) I truly do hope God takes it light on you because you really hurt me and still are hurting me.
About Me
Friday, September 26, 2008
Thursday, September 18, 2008
I need "ME" Time!
I need some "me" time...
I have a friend that’s going through some issues in her life and she doesn’t know what to do? And actually that’s her favorite Phrase "I don’t know what to do?"
At times it can get annoying because some of her problems can obviously be fixed, but some may take time to heal. If she doesn’t figure something out quick it may heal improperly.
It seems like her past haunts her every time she starts something new. Maybe this could be the cause of her fear of committing to anything that she does. She loves to start new, but never finishes what she starts. If she keeps that up she’ll never know what to do. Is she afraid of the outcome? Or is she afraid of making a mistake?
This problem can affect every aspect in her life! She knows it’s an issues yet she doesn’t know how to stop it.
Everyone is telling her she needs her “me” time to figure everything out…I agree, but she also needs an assistant to keep her on the right track. That’s why I recommended for her to go see a counselor or therapist, because her problems are much deeper.
If I had to describe what “Me” time meant: I would say it is when you take the time to evaluate yourself and figure what’s the cause for my inconsistency. I would evaluate the people in my life and figure if they are a negative or positive in my life. I would set up short term goals. I would try to change the way I view people and the way I view life.
I can’t touch too much on this subject because this is not my problem it’s her problem. I just hope she can figure everything out. She knows how I feel about everything and you can say I know her better she knows herself. I hope she makes the right choices in life and who she allows in her life because everything that seems fun and good can be the devil disguise.
I can actually tell you she’s taking the necessary steps for recovery, but I hope she takes action from what she learns and not just attend to make “people” feel happy. This is something that she needs to take care of before she can make any major moves in her life.
I have a friend that’s going through some issues in her life and she doesn’t know what to do? And actually that’s her favorite Phrase "I don’t know what to do?"
At times it can get annoying because some of her problems can obviously be fixed, but some may take time to heal. If she doesn’t figure something out quick it may heal improperly.
It seems like her past haunts her every time she starts something new. Maybe this could be the cause of her fear of committing to anything that she does. She loves to start new, but never finishes what she starts. If she keeps that up she’ll never know what to do. Is she afraid of the outcome? Or is she afraid of making a mistake?
This problem can affect every aspect in her life! She knows it’s an issues yet she doesn’t know how to stop it.
Everyone is telling her she needs her “me” time to figure everything out…I agree, but she also needs an assistant to keep her on the right track. That’s why I recommended for her to go see a counselor or therapist, because her problems are much deeper.
If I had to describe what “Me” time meant: I would say it is when you take the time to evaluate yourself and figure what’s the cause for my inconsistency. I would evaluate the people in my life and figure if they are a negative or positive in my life. I would set up short term goals. I would try to change the way I view people and the way I view life.
I can’t touch too much on this subject because this is not my problem it’s her problem. I just hope she can figure everything out. She knows how I feel about everything and you can say I know her better she knows herself. I hope she makes the right choices in life and who she allows in her life because everything that seems fun and good can be the devil disguise.
I can actually tell you she’s taking the necessary steps for recovery, but I hope she takes action from what she learns and not just attend to make “people” feel happy. This is something that she needs to take care of before she can make any major moves in her life.
Monday, September 15, 2008
This is not a usual post of mine
I found someone that will heal my heart. I met HER 2 weeks ago and ever since than I've been happy. I talk to HER everyday, when I'm at home at work...it's just been great! We do everything together; when I feel lonely, sad, depress SHE's there. I've been looking for someone that could for fill the needs that I've been aching.
On Sunday we became closer...the passion that was in my heart over took me and I can say I almost cried. The tears of joy being HER presence.
SHE will not lie, deceive or leave me in the cold. I believe I've placed my heart in the right hands. I thank HER for coming at the right time, even though she's been around me for a very long time.
"But I say unto you, love your enemies, bless them that curse you, do good to them that hate you, and pray for them which despitefully use you, and persecute you; That ye may be the children of your Father which is in heaven: for he maketh his sun to rise on the evil and on the good, and sendeth rain on the just and on the unjust."
(Matthew 5:44,45)
On Sunday we became closer...the passion that was in my heart over took me and I can say I almost cried. The tears of joy being HER presence.
SHE will not lie, deceive or leave me in the cold. I believe I've placed my heart in the right hands. I thank HER for coming at the right time, even though she's been around me for a very long time.
"But I say unto you, love your enemies, bless them that curse you, do good to them that hate you, and pray for them which despitefully use you, and persecute you; That ye may be the children of your Father which is in heaven: for he maketh his sun to rise on the evil and on the good, and sendeth rain on the just and on the unjust."
(Matthew 5:44,45)
Wednesday, September 3, 2008
I thought this was funny!!!!
Hold Your Reflexes: Indian Reality TV Girl Slapped Live! "How Can You Slap"!
Tuesday, August 26, 2008
Bloggers Meet Up!!!!!
SistaSocialite and I thought it would be interesting to gather up all the DC/MD/VA blogger's and just go out to eat or just hang out. Check her page for more info sistasocialite
It's not limited...anyone from the states can join if your capable.
It's not limited...anyone from the states can join if your capable.
Wednesday, August 20, 2008
Tuesday, August 19, 2008
Commitment Phobia
I believe I have a friend that have commitment phobia. I found this article online.
Do you know how to deal with commitment phobia?
There is a lot of advice on the internet regarding how to deal with commitment phobia. Are you confused? Here are some starting points:
Learn to recognize the symptoms. Is your partner truly scared of commitment, or is it just that you are both moving in different directions?
Sometimes if our relationship is not working, it is easier to blame the problem on some other cause, rather than look at the cold hard facts
As difficult as it may be to admit, you and your partner might not be right for each other. The following information will help you learn about the warning signs and how to deal with commitment phobia when it rears its ugly head.
What is commitment phobia?
Just like the name implies, commitment phobia is the fear or dislike of commitment. Men are generally considered more commitment-phobic than women, but recent research suggests that this might be a case of stereotyping, and that it is not necessarily a gender-specific thing.
Statistics show that we are happier and more well-adjusted when we are in committed relationships. So where does the fear of commitment come from? There can be many different reasons why people do not want to commit. Some of these can include:
Previous unsuccessful relationships
Has your partner been badly hurt in the past? If so, you will need to be patient. Let him or her know how much you care; slowly they will begin to trust you and realize that you are a completely different person to their ex-partner.
Fear of boredom
Are you or your partner addicted to the rush and excitement of a new relationship? Yes, the first stages of a relationship are always exciting….but as you settle into a routine, one or both of you might start to become restless, and look elsewhere to get that excitement again. Unfortunately, this superficial excitement will always wear off, leaving you hungry for the next fix.
So be careful; falling into this trap is a recipe for a shallow and lonely existence. Instead, how about taking steps to keep the relationship exciting for both of you? Try new things together and make sure you keep your independence too; this means spending a healthy amount of time apart, doing things with other people.
There might be someone better out there
Some people are always on the lookout for something better than what they already have. If you think your partner is doing this, then do yourself a favour and leave the relationship; you deserve better.
Only after the thrill of the chase
In a similar vain to the new relationship addict, some people are only interested in the unattainable; they come on strong at the start, saying and doing all the right things and being extremely attentive. Then once you reciprocate the interest, they don’t want to know any more.
Do you know someone like this? The signs are usually pretty clear…they are all over you one minute, then cool and distant the next. If you’re dating someone who does this, move right along! Don’t waste your time with game-players. Make yourself available for a partner who has integrity and who shows you the respect you deserve
So How Can We Avoid It?
If you’re not sure how to deal with commitment phobia, then I hope this guide has made things a little clearer. One of the most destructive side effects of being involved with a commitment phobic is a loss of self-esteem. You might even blame yourself for your partner’s failure to commit. Rejection hurts; and when you are on the receiving end of rejection, it can be hard not to turn on yourself.
The best way to avoid having to deal with commitment phobia is to be clear about what your needs and expectations are right from the beginning; don't avoid talking about serious subjects just because you don't want to “rock the boat”. If you don't both want the same things, it is better to know from the beginning.
"Don’t waste your time and energy on someone who does not deserve your love"
Do you know how to deal with commitment phobia?
There is a lot of advice on the internet regarding how to deal with commitment phobia. Are you confused? Here are some starting points:
Learn to recognize the symptoms. Is your partner truly scared of commitment, or is it just that you are both moving in different directions?
Sometimes if our relationship is not working, it is easier to blame the problem on some other cause, rather than look at the cold hard facts
As difficult as it may be to admit, you and your partner might not be right for each other. The following information will help you learn about the warning signs and how to deal with commitment phobia when it rears its ugly head.
What is commitment phobia?
Just like the name implies, commitment phobia is the fear or dislike of commitment. Men are generally considered more commitment-phobic than women, but recent research suggests that this might be a case of stereotyping, and that it is not necessarily a gender-specific thing.
Statistics show that we are happier and more well-adjusted when we are in committed relationships. So where does the fear of commitment come from? There can be many different reasons why people do not want to commit. Some of these can include:
Previous unsuccessful relationships
Has your partner been badly hurt in the past? If so, you will need to be patient. Let him or her know how much you care; slowly they will begin to trust you and realize that you are a completely different person to their ex-partner.
Fear of boredom
Are you or your partner addicted to the rush and excitement of a new relationship? Yes, the first stages of a relationship are always exciting….but as you settle into a routine, one or both of you might start to become restless, and look elsewhere to get that excitement again. Unfortunately, this superficial excitement will always wear off, leaving you hungry for the next fix.
So be careful; falling into this trap is a recipe for a shallow and lonely existence. Instead, how about taking steps to keep the relationship exciting for both of you? Try new things together and make sure you keep your independence too; this means spending a healthy amount of time apart, doing things with other people.
There might be someone better out there
Some people are always on the lookout for something better than what they already have. If you think your partner is doing this, then do yourself a favour and leave the relationship; you deserve better.
Only after the thrill of the chase
In a similar vain to the new relationship addict, some people are only interested in the unattainable; they come on strong at the start, saying and doing all the right things and being extremely attentive. Then once you reciprocate the interest, they don’t want to know any more.
Do you know someone like this? The signs are usually pretty clear…they are all over you one minute, then cool and distant the next. If you’re dating someone who does this, move right along! Don’t waste your time with game-players. Make yourself available for a partner who has integrity and who shows you the respect you deserve
So How Can We Avoid It?
If you’re not sure how to deal with commitment phobia, then I hope this guide has made things a little clearer. One of the most destructive side effects of being involved with a commitment phobic is a loss of self-esteem. You might even blame yourself for your partner’s failure to commit. Rejection hurts; and when you are on the receiving end of rejection, it can be hard not to turn on yourself.
The best way to avoid having to deal with commitment phobia is to be clear about what your needs and expectations are right from the beginning; don't avoid talking about serious subjects just because you don't want to “rock the boat”. If you don't both want the same things, it is better to know from the beginning.
"Don’t waste your time and energy on someone who does not deserve your love"
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