SEX

I tried the video but I had to take it down because the audio was just terrible. There was so much of a delay with the video it looked like an old Action Asian movie. When I fix the problem I'll be sure to put something up.

Again it's been so long, but I few a things that I have to share:

I've been on a sex drought for a while now...it's killing me!!!! It's not like I can’t get it from someone, I'm just not ready to fuck another girl yet. For bloggers that don’t know what happened a few months ago...I just broke up with my 2 1/2 year girlfriend. I still have a bad taste in my mouth. We still talk, but not like we use to...I'm truly moving on but I don’t want to waste my time with just any ole thang. As of lately I've been serial dating, but a lot the females fall short. I may be too impatient or I’m just not giving them a try. I feel that I'm getting older and I shouldn’t be wasting my time with these little games. I'm 24, no kids with a stable job. I know a lot of you are saying your young...yeah I'm young now but I want to know someone for 2 years at least before I take it to the next level (marriage) and in 2 years I would be 27 (this year is almost over that's why I said 27). It's Frustrating!!!

Women are extremely complicated (period) Why cant you just be simple…It’s funny when women say they don’t like to play games but there the main one’s that love to play. I’m to the point where I don’t think I will never get married because they don’t make them like they use to. It feels like the women are taking the men’s place where you thought no man can be faithful now the table has turned it feels like no women can be faithful.

I know I had few issues with women in the past and it’s still present till this day. If you were to meet me (and a few of you have)…I’m an easy going guy. So its either WOMEN or my selections which is the problem.

Well enough about women!!!! Did yall hear the Kanye West CD??? I feel his pain.

Sorry!!!

It's been 2 weeks since I last posted!!!! I should be ashamed of myself. Right now I'm just going to go through every one's blogs and checked what I've missed.

Also, I was thinking about doing a YouTube blog...What do you think?

My President is Black!!!!

YES WE CAN!!!!!

Let's dance!!!!

STOP what you’re doing and let’s dance over the internet basically what I want you to do is just dance when you’re listening to this song and technically we just danced over the internet, I know it wasn’t at the same time but pretend we did. lol It's stupid but it's a Friday so we're allowed to this. I know muze is definitely going to like this one!!!

For the guys that are watching, show these ladies how we do this!!!

Who needs alcohol!!

I saw this video a couple of days ago and it hit over 1,000,000 view so I'm guessing its a must see Youtube.

It's a beautiful day in my neighborhood!

It's Howard Homecoming!!!! I wish I could attend all the events but there's so many and so little time. I'll probably go to Yard fest, Fashion show, and the step show. Those are my normal rituals for homecoming every year.

I'm going to the to the Gun range Saturday to relieve some stress. I'm taking a few ladies which I'm still nervous about because this is there first time and they probably never seen a gun in real life before. Fellow friends please pray for me!!! I have few things that crossed my mind: 1) What if one of the girls don't know how to hold the gun properly, it could slip and go off and with my luck I would get hit. 2) What if one of females has a flash back when a man abused them, she blacks out and the first male she See's is me:-o 3) A WOMAN IS HOLDING A GUN!!!!!! Like I said Please pray for me.

I'm declaring to myself not to party so much. All of 2008 I've partied almost every weekend!!! I've drank the most alcohol than my previous years combine. This weekend will make it pretty hard for me not to party.

Oh yeah, I've been sober for over a month now!!! *Applause* It wasn't by choice though I was forced by my doctors!!!! They told me I was damaging my liver and I need to stop for a month and than get back with them. After that I can only drink a limited amount of alcohol. Damn Doctors what do they know!

The pics are in!!!

I actually dont like how the pictures turned out. Sistasocialite needs to ajust some settings on the camera.

It's Friday!!!!

“One man's trash is another man's treasure.” For the past 2 months I couldn’t see my worth, until I was overwhelmed by compliments and encouragements. Now I look at myself and what I see is a Good Man.
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The right person!

Have you ever met someone and thought it was too good to be true? I know I’ve came in contact with a couple of those. In the beginning of getting to know someone, is always “peachy”, but when a few months or sometimes days pass than you start to see the real person. Sometimes it’s not all that bad, you just see small flaws, but you also have to ask yourself, can I handle his/her flaws for the rest of my life? I know I can handle the small issues like why cant you make up your mind?...When comes to the big issues like trust and honesty that’s when you have to really reevaluate things. Those two things should not be a problem in anyone’s relationship.
A little jealousy is not bad, it shows love and you want them. At the same time jealousy can get out of hand. Be careful from being too possessive, no one wants someone like that. It makes the other person feel like they’re trapped and most likely they’ll try to escape.
Well enough with the random thoughts!

Connecticut looks really good!

It's Hump day!

Muze your gonna calm down with demanding where the pics are!!!!!!! Don't make me take a flight to Detroit!

I have a few pics of the bloggers meet up thanks to Haute Like Fire, we're still waiting on CocaColaCutie and sistasocialite.









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Fellow Bloogers I would like to thank you for giving me so much advice and insight on what I should do with the ex. It seems like everyone is basically saying leave her totally. She will understand one day what she's lost, and she will have to live with that for the rest of her life.

I know everyone wonders if I was a good man in the relationship...just because I'm a MAN lol YES i was the perfect man. You can even ask her if I was good to her and she will not deny it. There was one time I literally gave her my last $1 and I've also made sacrifices in my life just to make her happy.
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Ladies I think I'm rusty in today's Game. I've been out of commission for 2 1/2 years, could you help me out pleaseee. What is the best way to approach a woman? I usually find something we can relate to right than and there, but what happens when you don't have anything to relate to? I cant just wait until I find something abnormal and than talk about it...

Blog meet up

The blog meet up went pretty well I must say. It felt like we were all on a blind date's. At first sistasocialite and I thought no one was coming and we were going to have to do a 1 on 1. Surprisingly that wasn't the case, people started showing up. I would post some pictures up but people haven't uploaded them yet.

We talked about having another blog meet up, but who's gonna be the next host???

DC Blog Meet up/Friday Vent

THE DC BLOG MEET UP IS STILL ON!!!!!!!!!! SistaSocialite is just slipping. Change of Location also:
Cheesecake Factory
5345 Wisconsin Avenue NW, Washington, DC 20015
(202) 364-0500

http://www.cheesecakefactory.com/locations.htm

I believe we have 16 people coming out to this event.

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I need to be more consistent with my blogs. I say that every week!
I appreciate everyone that gave me some light to my situation. I’m still going through it but I'm dealing with it a lot better.

My Vent Friday!!!

1) She says it’s just a phase.

2) I found the truth but I had to force it out of her which is never the best way. (No types Abuse lol…I would never put my hands on a woman)

3) If you were to see the man she’s with, and his situation you would think she was crazy. Actually I don’t think of it that way, I’m wondering how does he have her interest.

4) I find myself fighting to get her back when she should be fighting to get me back.

5) I have to admit I was a sucker on Wednesday, we hung out all day and we had fun.

6) She has a love song for his ring tone and she sounds excited when she talks to him.

7) I feel like the other man.

8) In a subliminal way she’s been telling me not to mess it for her. Lol that one hurts!

9) I’m done with her for good. She’s truly made her decision. She thinks she hasn’t, but it’s obvious.

I'm in battle right now!

This situation I'm in has prevented me to constantly post. It's extremely hard for me to do anything in my life because it revolves around the situation. In the past few weeks I've been holding a lot in and I need to release it. If you have any advice please share it's must needed.

Vent List

1) Before we ended it, you fell for someone and now less than 1 month of the "end" you fall for someone else.

2) You know how to fix this problem but you just don't want to.

3) Am I being used?

4) I'm a provider, a Lover and a protector, but I still get treated like shit.

5) God please help me get over this, I know revenge is not the way. How could you let her treat me like this?

6) She'll tell you she loves you and out the same mouth tell someone else she loves them.

7) Your not confused, your just self fish. I know you want me, but you also want someone else, so you'll play your cards close to the table so you can have both.

8) As bad as I want to confront the guys, victims to be correct, they didn't do anything except fall for the Sirens - Odyssey.

9) Right now your having fun but wants it's over will I still be here?

10) She still lies!

11) I believe people who use the love too freely should be banned from it because they don't know how powerful the word mean.

12) It seems like she cares about the 2 new guys more than me.

13) Karma is a bitch! Just think of all what you've done and multiply it by 2 and that's whats gonna happen to you in the future.

14) I met someone that I thought could rescue me from this nightmare but she left because she cant stand that I cant let go of the past.

15) Are you truly heartless? I've been asking that for sometime now.

16) Picture me not in your life, if it's hard to picture than what's wrong with you?
Your answer "I don't know"- Than you continue on with your life.

17) She sneaks away to be with him. I know when your lying!

18) I truly do hope God takes it light on you because you really hurt me and still are hurting me.

I need "ME" Time!

I need some "me" time...

I have a friend that’s going through some issues in her life and she doesn’t know what to do? And actually that’s her favorite Phrase "I don’t know what to do?"
At times it can get annoying because some of her problems can obviously be fixed, but some may take time to heal. If she doesn’t figure something out quick it may heal improperly.
It seems like her past haunts her every time she starts something new. Maybe this could be the cause of her fear of committing to anything that she does. She loves to start new, but never finishes what she starts. If she keeps that up she’ll never know what to do. Is she afraid of the outcome? Or is she afraid of making a mistake?
This problem can affect every aspect in her life! She knows it’s an issues yet she doesn’t know how to stop it.
Everyone is telling her she needs her “me” time to figure everything out…I agree, but she also needs an assistant to keep her on the right track. That’s why I recommended for her to go see a counselor or therapist, because her problems are much deeper.
If I had to describe what “Me” time meant: I would say it is when you take the time to evaluate yourself and figure what’s the cause for my inconsistency. I would evaluate the people in my life and figure if they are a negative or positive in my life. I would set up short term goals. I would try to change the way I view people and the way I view life.

I can’t touch too much on this subject because this is not my problem it’s her problem. I just hope she can figure everything out. She knows how I feel about everything and you can say I know her better she knows herself. I hope she makes the right choices in life and who she allows in her life because everything that seems fun and good can be the devil disguise.
I can actually tell you she’s taking the necessary steps for recovery, but I hope she takes action from what she learns and not just attend to make “people” feel happy. This is something that she needs to take care of before she can make any major moves in her life.

This is not a usual post of mine

I found someone that will heal my heart. I met HER 2 weeks ago and ever since than I've been happy. I talk to HER everyday, when I'm at home at work...it's just been great! We do everything together; when I feel lonely, sad, depress SHE's there. I've been looking for someone that could for fill the needs that I've been aching.

On Sunday we became closer...the passion that was in my heart over took me and I can say I almost cried. The tears of joy being HER presence.

SHE will not lie, deceive or leave me in the cold. I believe I've placed my heart in the right hands. I thank HER for coming at the right time, even though she's been around me for a very long time.

"But I say unto you, love your enemies, bless them that curse you, do good to them that hate you, and pray for them which despitefully use you, and persecute you; That ye may be the children of your Father which is in heaven: for he maketh his sun to rise on the evil and on the good, and sendeth rain on the just and on the unjust."

(Matthew 5:44,45)

I thought this was funny!!!!

Hold Your Reflexes: Indian Reality TV Girl Slapped Live! "How Can You Slap"!

Bloggers Meet Up!!!!!

SistaSocialite and I thought it would be interesting to gather up all the DC/MD/VA blogger's and just go out to eat or just hang out. Check her page for more info sistasocialite

It's not limited...anyone from the states can join if your capable.

When Parenting Goes Horribly Wrong?

Commitment Phobia

I believe I have a friend that have commitment phobia. I found this article online.


Do you know how to deal with commitment phobia?
There is a lot of advice on the internet regarding how to deal with commitment phobia. Are you confused? Here are some starting points:

Learn to recognize the symptoms. Is your partner truly scared of commitment, or is it just that you are both moving in different directions?
Sometimes if our relationship is not working, it is easier to blame the problem on some other cause, rather than look at the cold hard facts
As difficult as it may be to admit, you and your partner might not be right for each other. The following information will help you learn about the warning signs and how to deal with commitment phobia when it rears its ugly head.





What is commitment phobia?
Just like the name implies, commitment phobia is the fear or dislike of commitment. Men are generally considered more commitment-phobic than women, but recent research suggests that this might be a case of stereotyping, and that it is not necessarily a gender-specific thing.

Statistics show that we are happier and more well-adjusted when we are in committed relationships. So where does the fear of commitment come from? There can be many different reasons why people do not want to commit. Some of these can include:





Previous unsuccessful relationships

Has your partner been badly hurt in the past? If so, you will need to be patient. Let him or her know how much you care; slowly they will begin to trust you and realize that you are a completely different person to their ex-partner.




Fear of boredom

Are you or your partner addicted to the rush and excitement of a new relationship? Yes, the first stages of a relationship are always exciting….but as you settle into a routine, one or both of you might start to become restless, and look elsewhere to get that excitement again. Unfortunately, this superficial excitement will always wear off, leaving you hungry for the next fix.

So be careful; falling into this trap is a recipe for a shallow and lonely existence. Instead, how about taking steps to keep the relationship exciting for both of you? Try new things together and make sure you keep your independence too; this means spending a healthy amount of time apart, doing things with other people.



There might be someone better out there

Some people are always on the lookout for something better than what they already have. If you think your partner is doing this, then do yourself a favour and leave the relationship; you deserve better.



Only after the thrill of the chase

In a similar vain to the new relationship addict, some people are only interested in the unattainable; they come on strong at the start, saying and doing all the right things and being extremely attentive. Then once you reciprocate the interest, they don’t want to know any more.

Do you know someone like this? The signs are usually pretty clear…they are all over you one minute, then cool and distant the next. If you’re dating someone who does this, move right along! Don’t waste your time with game-players. Make yourself available for a partner who has integrity and who shows you the respect you deserve






So How Can We Avoid It?
If you’re not sure how to deal with commitment phobia, then I hope this guide has made things a little clearer. One of the most destructive side effects of being involved with a commitment phobic is a loss of self-esteem. You might even blame yourself for your partner’s failure to commit. Rejection hurts; and when you are on the receiving end of rejection, it can be hard not to turn on yourself.


The best way to avoid having to deal with commitment phobia is to be clear about what your needs and expectations are right from the beginning; don't avoid talking about serious subjects just because you don't want to “rock the boat”. If you don't both want the same things, it is better to know from the beginning.





"Don’t waste your time and energy on someone who does not deserve your love"

One Last Cry

Do we let Astrology run our lives?

I know everyone has read their horoscope at least once, and also searched for which sign they were compatible with. I'm guilty of doing this...Once you find your matches, it's basically tatted in back of your mind. If someone tells you they were born on a month/day that the horoscope told you to stay to away from, you get a red alert about the person and you start to point out the negative traits. What if that person was the one for you, but just because something told you to stay far away from him/her you listen.

I don't discredit astrology, I actually enjoy reading my daily horoscope and knowing who I'm compatible with, but I also don't let it run my life. People deserve chances no matter how stubborn their sign are.

Remember Astrology is one of the oldest tradition, and some consider it a religion.

I'm an Aries

Aries Positive Traits

Loves adventure, very energetic
Inventive with lots of courage
confident and Enthusiastic
Sharp and quick-minded
Fiery and warm, passionate and expressive. Possessing a strong sense of urgency.

Aries Negative Traits

Can be self-centered at times and prone to being quick-tempered,
Impulsive and impatience
takes unnecessary risks
A procrastinator at times

ARIES goes with:
Leo, Sagittarius, Gemini and Aquarius (most compatible is Leo).



Aries Personality Profile
The Aries person seeks adventure and has unusually high energy level. Pioneering, Aries will be the first to take a risk. There were no doubt, a lot of Aries day traders when that first became popular for example.

The sunsign Aries is considered by their peers to be a courageous leader, not afraid to take risks, will often feel confident that "They know better". Aries always seems to have a quick grasp of essence of most any situation, BUT aries does not often hang around to closely examine the details. However, give fiery Aries a cause, or a good reason to fight for something, a problem to solve, or a fresh new idea to ponder, and you will find this dynamic personality rises to the cause.

Aries is also a very dynamic person and can easily draw attention to themselves when they enter a room. Make no mistake, an Aries person will be on of the first to risk their life to save yours, and also the first to get really mad at you for putting yourself at risk in the first place!

Lovers Information
Aries are very affectionate people, in spite of the "me first" tendency. They are passionate and generous toward their loved ones. With warm and enthusiastic natures, they can be very demonstrative.

Sociable gregarious extroverts, Arians are fantastic to have around because they tend to add life and soul to any party because of their energetic, bouncy, enthusiastic nature. At times the Aries personality becomes very dark indeed when crossed by a lover.

Aries and heartbreaks
A broken hearted Aries is a seriously sad (or angry) person. In spite of their cheerful exterior, Arians are tender and emotionally fragile people. Prone to falling in love at first sight, they instantly put their partners on a pedestal. This is usually were the trouble begins.

Unless the two of you can talk through differences, the Arian will be very disappointed on discovering that their partner is less then perfect...

The romantic idea of being faithful to one person forever is appealing to Aries because of their strong sense of romance. However, if things go bad he or she may stray, in search of more attention, excitement and love.

Random Questions

Friday Questions (something new)

Whats the best pick up line you've heard from a guy?

At what age do you think people should get married?

Obama or McCain?

Do you prefer a guy with short hair or long hair? (if you want, you can go into detail; cornrows, dreads, etc.)

Do you prefer Light skin, brown skin or dark skin?

Which Celebrity would you date?

Old school hip hop or new school?

Whats your biggest regret?

Kanye West dropping Words

On the brain

1) In my life I've been the bad guy and good guy towards women. It seems like every time I'm good to someone I'm treated like shit and when I'm bad they want me more...What's wrong with women?

2) Some people cant have just 1 they want the whole jar...that's selfish.

3) It's hard playing both sides of the game.

4) Beauty is temporary, when its gone we'll see what your left with.

5) Who's really the victim?

6) It's funny when you let something good go, and when it's gone than that's when you want it back.

I'm getting this car...Thanks to Redman

At Myrtle Beach

*WARNING* Dont be afraid to open your minds.

1/3 had question's about religion...Well, this is the history of religion.
(I dont want to test anyone's faith, so be cautions while watching this.)

Gnarls Barkley - Who's Gonna Save My Soul

This is a DEEP song!!!!!!!

Fonzworth Bentley Feat. Kanye West, Andre 300 & Sa-Ra- Everybody

Is Diddy Poison?

Sorry sistasocialite , I know how much you love diddy.






I had a Relaxing weekend. No parties eventhough I could've went out. I saw Wanted...Great Movie!!!! Now I have to see hancock, I hope it can live up to Wanted.


Here's me during the weekend

Friday Sins

7 DEADLY Sins...

Anger
1. Who did you last get angry with? TJ
2. What is your weapon of choice? Silence
3. Would you hit a member of the opposite sex? No, never!!!!!
4. How about of the same sex? Only if they disrespect me.
5. Who was the last person who got really angry at you? TJ
6. What is your pet peeve? Playing Ignorant and Lying
7. Do you keep grudges, or can you let them go easily? I can keep a Grudge until the

Sloth
1. What is one thing you’re supposed to do daily that you haven’t done in a long time? Eat Breakfast
2. What is the latest you’ve ever woken up? 4pm long nite and morning
3. Who have you been meaning to contact, but haven’t? There's so many people...I've been slacking.
4. What is the last lame excuse you made? "I was tired"
5. Have you ever watched an infomercial all the way through (one of the long ones…)? No
6. How many times did you hit the snooze button on your alarm clock today? 3 times


Gluttony
1. What is your overpriced yuppie beverage of choice? Everything is over priced now.
2. Meat eaters are…: well balanced with protein
3. What is the greatest amount of alcohol you’ve had in one sitting/outing/event? When I drink, I DRINK, so I couldn't tell you.
4. Have you ever used a professional diet company? NO
5. Do you prefer sweets, salty foods or spicy foods? Sweet

Lust
1. Have you ever caught yourself staring at the chest/crotch of a member of your gender of choice during a normal conversation? Chest sorry I'm a guy
2. What is your favorite body part on a person of your gender of choice? I'm not big on the body parts...I like a cute face. Basically someone who can fit my style.
3. Have you ever been made a proposition by a prostitute? Nah
4. Have you ever had to get tested for an STD or pregnancy? I past the STD test with a 59%...check my self at least every 6 months or a year...no more than that!!!!!!
5. Is love at first sight really lust? YESSSS

Greed
1. How many credit cards do you own? 5 or 6 but I control them all.
2. What’s your guilty pleasure store? Classical music
3. If you had $1 million, what would you do with it? Invest!!!!!
4. Would you rather be rich or famous? Rich
5. Would you accept a boring job if it meant you would make megabucks? Honestly yes...I'll have fun after work.
6. Have you ever stolen anything? I stole the survey
7. How many mp3s are on your hard drive? Thousands


Pride
1. What is one thing you have done that you’re most proud of? Stayed out of trouble (correction never got caught)
2. What’s one thing you’ve done that your parents are most proud of? Having a Good Job
3. What thing would you like to accomplish in your life? Own a Company and open up a childrens club
4. Do you get annoyed by coming in second place? YES!
5. Have you ever entered a contest of skill, knowing you were of much higher skill than all the other competitors? LOL yeah
6. Have you ever cheated on something to get a higher score? Yeah
7. What did you do today that you’re proud of? nothing as of yet


Envy
1. What item (or person) of your friends would you most want to have for yourself? my friends salary
2. Who would you want to go on Trading Spaces with? TJ lol
3. If you could be anyone else in the world, who would you be? tough question
4. Have you ever been cheated on? Yea
5. Have you ever cheated? I cheat only on the weekends lol sike nah I never cheated.

Lets re-do this week!

I'm having such a shitty week!

Sometimes I wish life can ease up on me. I'm trying to be as genuine as possible, and not go against my morals, but certain situations that reoccurs wont let that be. I'm afraid being vocal will lead into a big misunderstanding, like it always do, so I stay silent.
I enjoy the good times, but playing dumb cause's me to react dumb. As much as I want it to be finalize and create new life, just the little things causes me to question. Fears of the past repeating itself runs through my mind. I've seen the changes, but still the monster lives within until the monster dies, I shall be in fear. I see the seed of beauty which springs from time to time, why cant you let it blossom to it's fullest potential. Until than I will help and water the planet until I see God's beautiful creation.

I hope my thoughts dont back fire on me...it always does:)


Sorry about the Subliminal messages

Lauren London

During an interview the beautiful Lauren London was quoted:

"I love guys who are street. I won’t even give soft guys a chance. Menace II Society is my shit! Caine was like my first crush. Actually, O-Dog was my true dream guy. I was in love with him, from that opening scene where he pops the convenience-store worker. He had me from that gunshot [laughs]. He was ’hood, and I loved that."



OK!!! I'm getting ready to shoot everyone I see so I can be with a girl like this:)
I'm not saying she speaks for all women, but with past experience with women...they do like that rough type of guy.


This guy had a few words to say about that statement.

My Pros and Cons

I wanted to list my Pros and Cons


Pros
ARIES (lol); Family oriented; Positive Attitude; See good in people; I can relate to all types (race, gender, young, old, and hood); Love to solve "life's puzzles" and the traditional puzzles; understanding; compassionate; I hold "do unto others as you would have them do unto you" to the heart, so I don’t cheat, even though I'm a male and it's attached to my DNA, my urge is very low; 90% of the time I tell the truth, the other 10% it's to spare feelings.

Cons
ARIES; Over analyze situations; procrastinator, too head strong, sometimes Jump first before looking at what I'm jumping in (Get it?) that’s in general; I'm a pound for pound type of guy, meaning you hit me, I hit you back harder, you steal for from me, I steal from you back, but more.


Random Thoughts

"Fact and Fiction are two different categories so why not tell me two stories, the truth and the lie"

3 Red Flags That You're Headed for a Breakup

When it comes to breaking up, hindsight is 20/20. But wouldn't it be nice if you could tell that you and your partner were headed for a falling out before it happened?

Fortunately, you can predict a break up. And with just a little bit of tweaking, you can get back on track and rescue your relationship before it hits the rocks.

Red Flag #1: Tuning Out
One of the most common reasons relationships fail is because one or both partners is tuning out. It might sound minor, but in actuality, few things are more hurtful than being ignored by your loved one, whether that is accompanied by emotional neglect or physical distance.

The Cure: Take Down the Wall
Tuning back in is easy. All you have to do is agree to listen to your partner's feedback and dedicate time and emotion to the relationship again. Start taking down the emotional wall, brick by brick. Look at your partner in the eye when he or she speaks (even if it is not what you want to hear), make physical contact daily (even if it is just holding hands), and re-commit to the relationship.

Red Flag #2: Fighting Fire with Fire
Couples who fight fire with fire can expect a relationship that is constantly up in flames. Name-calling, sarcasm, criticism, and violence (from throwing things, slamming doors, to actual physical abuse) result in emotional wounds that are hard to heal and relationships that are hard to rescue.

The Cure: Pour Water on the Flames
The next time you feel anger guiding you to say, or do, things you might regret, take time to cool off. If that's not possible, try framing your complaints as requests. For instance instead of, "Why did you forget our date?," you could say, "I feel sad that you forgot our date. How can we make sure this doesn't happen again?" If your partner is the one who is fanning the flames, don't engage in the vicious cycle of insults and tantrums. You can't fight fire with fire if the other person won't engage in the flame-throwing.

Red Flag #3: Refusing to Own Up
No one is perfect, so why is it that some of us refuse to take responsibility in our most important relationships? Passing the buck and playing the victim are surefire ways to put a relationship in jeopardy.

The Cure: Take Responsibility for Your Actions
The next time you forget an anniversary, or say something hurtful to your spouse, don't try to pass the buck and refuse to take responsibility. Instead, admit where you went wrong and try harder next time. Sounds simple... but it can save your relationship.

By making simple changes to the way you and your partner communicate, you can keep your relationship intact. All couples fight and argue, but it is how you fight and argue that determines whether your love can weather the storm.

By Dr. Laura Berman

David Spates

This Guy is Too Funny!!!!

"Where did the Love go"

BET is was on point yesterday!!!!!

In my opinion everything starts in the home.

“Your thoughts over shadows your heart”

I have a lot to say but I don’t how to put them in to words!

Women are corrupted by today’s society.

R. Kelly's Brother Snitching?...

This is about 19mins of audio if you have time listen to it but if you don't, it's basically r.kelly's brother talking about kelly's "thing for young girls."




Would you ever tell on your family member?

Young Girls!

This week felt so long for some reason. I'm really looking forward to this 3 day weekend :) I'm in dieing need of some rest. Sometimes life can be so routine...I sound depressed but I'm not because life is good.

Young Girls “Now N’ These Days”

Y’all wouldn’t believe this!!!!!!!!!!!
There’s this little girl that lives across the street from me…I believe she’s 15. I’ve known her for at least 11 years. I use to baby sit her and her older brother ‘Back n’ da day’. She was soooo smart and spoke very well for her age; she had a bright future for herself. Time has passed…I see her sometimes walking back home and she says hi…I still talk to her brother just checking up on his schooling.
Ok here is where it gets interesting…
There’s a kid that lives down the street from me and he’s consider a “trouble maker”…I talk to him here and there…he respect me because of my past and the people that I know. He’s in this “gang” called 88 which was formed by my friends when we were younger. (I’m not in the gang, there just my friends I group with)
Well, this kid in formed me that the lil girl was a “Roller”- girl that is easy. He said that he’s had sex with her multiple times and she gives him oral sex. I’m like whaaaaaaaaat???? Than I found out that a lot of the guys in the neighborhood had them “some a of her”….I was in shocked!
Well last night I saw the kid coming out of her house, I’m guessing the mother is out of town, and he tells me that he brought his cousin to “F*** her”.
This might minor to a lot of people that have better stories but to me this is big because I seen her grow up.
Does she have no self respect?...

If you were in my shoes where you knew a girl all her life and she became so promiscuous, would you talk to her and tell her how the guys around the neighborhood think of her, just to knock some common sense into her head, or would you leave it alone and let her learn the hard way?

I'm Back

Mr. Controversy Back!

Life’s been good to me as of lately. I’ve notice I’ve been unintentionally tormenting myself with a few issues of my life. I’ve came to a conclusion to live my OWN life, and live it to the fullest.

There are just a couple of things I can’t understand and I may never understand them until it’s too late. Until than I’ll bury my thoughts in the pet cemetery (If you seen the movie you’ll understand).

Topic:

Simple and Complex

Men are simple minded: Is this a bad thing??? We’re usually direct with our answers and questions. “Some” men cheat and often get caught because we’re just that damn simple.

Women are complex minded: Is this a good thing??? Conversations are usually subliminal. Women cheat but more in a feline type of way.

What’s your opinion about this topic?